If I make a move with one then I’ll never know with the other. I think I’m just going to play it safe for not and see how things turn out. One would be long distance, the other is completely new and kind of got that new car smell appeal of him but I don’t know, it could be a bad move to jump into things. I don’t think he wants to jump into anything serious yet either.
Thank you for the advice. I’ll definitely figure it out and when things are looking good, maybe I’ll post something. (:
A little confusing to be honest. I’m trying to meet new people because I realize the people I’ve been going back to have been nothing but toxic to my life.
But in meeting new people, I feel like I’m kind of drifting into relationships I might not want in the future (?) I don’t know. I’m not exactly sure what I want and things are progressing too quickly to make logical decisions. I’m being super vague right now, but yeah. haha. I would say I’m attached to two particular guys but I’m not not sure if I want to make the move with either of them to being more committed.
Oh, I thought I answered this one. I’m sorry.
I totally see your side here because my plans never go the way they’re supposed to. And especially since its your boyfriend, he should have taken the time to make this outing special. But I think you should try to understand how awkward it must have been for your boyfriend for his distant father to interject himself into your plans. It’s not like he wanted to ruin the night. You should talk to your boyfriend and see what’s wrong with him and his dad and why did he suddenly want to come to dinner with you two. These kinds of issues might be more important to think about in the long term than something as simple as a change of plans for a date.
I’m a firm believer in “If it’s meant to be, then it’s meant to be”, but I understand the distance aspect. It’s difficult to try to be committed to a happy ending that might not happen even if he seems perfect now. It’s a nice thought for him to have, no doubt, but a lot can happen in these 4 years. Don’t feel tied down (especially since you’re not actually his girlfriend or anything). If you see a cute guy, go for it. Just don’t feel like your bestfriend is the one and only even if he thinks so.
A relationship doesn’t need to be perfect or blissful 24/7 to be healthy or happy, and won’t ever be, because people aren’t perfect or blissed out every waking minute, and relationships are made of people. Conflicts, disagreements and problems do and will happen. We also won’t always get everything we want or need all the time. People change over time, so something that worked once, or worked one way once, won’t always stay working or keep feeling right, especially if the relationship doesn’t change and grow along with us.
Some relationships stay great despite the occasional problem or hiccup, even a big one now and then. Others won’t survive even little issues or will always have more conflict than harmony. Some conflicts can be managed and resolved while staying in a relationship; others can’t, won’t or maybe even shouldn’t be, like if people want and need very different things. Some relationships are worth staying in and working through conflict, while staying in others may not be worth the energy and time, or may hurt everyone more by staying than by parting ways.
The phrase “resolving conflict” is easily misunderstood. It doesn’t mean just trying to make conflict go away, shoving it in the back of the closet and pretending it isn’t there or doesn’t matter. It is there. It does matter. Conflict rarely gets resolved if people don’t actively work it out, and isn’t resolved if anyone just accepts that parts of the relationship really suck, and figures that someone just has to deal with being unhappy and not getting what they want and need.Resolving conflict is a process, one usually positive in the process itself, not just when the outcome is what we want. When we work through conflict, we’re feeding and watering our relationship, making real commitment to it, getting a better understanding of the issues and each other, and learning what we each can and can’t do to make things better for both of us. We learn about our own, our partner, and our relationship’s capabilities and limitations, strengths and weaknesses. In that process we usually deepen our relationship, even if we come to unwanted or uncomfortable conclusions.
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First, if your friends are true to you, then they wouldn’t get mad for defending your bf. He obviously means a lot to you if this is concerning so you should tell your friends to lay off. Its not even a big deal too. They can keep their comments to themselves. :)
So she has told you she has feelings for you, but you don’t know what kind? Usually when someone says that they have “feelings” for you, they mean that they like you as well.
Are you the type of person that will confront her directly with something like this? telling her how you feel is pretty brave (something I wish more people would be more upfront about), so I think you should also be direct in asking her what kind of feelings she has for you. Whether she has a boyfriend or not, you have every right to know if she sees you in a romantic way or not.
That’s true. I don’t deny that I’m not still learning this game. Haha. Thanks, I’ll keep that in mind. :)
Complicated. Its tough when you think you’re done with someone and they just stroll back in your life like nothing. Currently in need if thinking time.